As a very wise friend once illustrated marriage is like merging two companies. You bring together vision statements, mission statements, finances, assets, and expectations for how this newly merged company should grow and prosper. In one company the accountant might be stronger and so that accountant will be in charge of the companies finances. The other company might have had a strong ability to see the future and to plan accordingly to the trends of society so that company is put in charge of vision. Basically the two companies come together and communicate hopes, expectations, and desires. Through this communication there is a beautiful dance that takes place, where one company is weak the other is strong and so at certain parts of the song one partner will not just allow but encourage the other partner to lead. See these two companies have come together and they want a win win scenario because they both have so much invested in this merger. They might not always see eye to eye and they may hit a couple of ruff spots through trial and error like any business, but they are committed to ensuring that this business is healthy and growing.
God wants us to understand that in this life our spouses are no longer just another person that is walking the face of the earth but that they are an extension of us. Look at your marriage in terms of a team. When you play on a sports team, your goal is not to win all the personal achievements that are out there. The ultimate goal is to win the championship of that sport. Every great athlete has found out the most important piece to the equation to the success of a team, this is that no matter how talented any one player is on the team it takes the elevation of the whole team's talent to win a championship. They learned as their motivation changed from just wanting to shine in the spot light to helping all those around them, they found success was able to be reached. You never want your teammates to lose, if they do, you do!!! In marriage we should not look to win arguments with our spouse if she or he loses you both lost. In times of disagreements the goal should be to communicate expectations and desires clearly and then come to the best decision possible so that the team continues to focus on it's goal. When an offense has taken place, we as a team should not want to hurt one another, we should move to reconcile as soon as possible. A husband should want the best for his wife and the wife should want the best for her husband, and the best is becoming what God created us all to be in the Body of Christ!!! Today, adopt the business/team mentality in regards to your marriage and work to ensure that above anything else your partner is a winner!!! Be Encouraged!!! Have a wonderful life of enjoying Marriage on purpose!!!!!
Ephesians 5
Marriage—Christ and the Church
22 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body. 24 Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything. 25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, 26 that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, 27 that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish. 28 So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. 29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church. 30 For we are members of His body,[d] of His flesh and of His bones. 31 “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.”[e] 32 This is a great mystery, but I speak concerning Christ and the church. 33 Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.
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